Monophobia: Fear of being alone

Monophobia: The Fear of being alone

How a father did NLP with his children in the wrong way!

“I’m afraid of staying alone, even in my own home,” said a man in his 30s who approached me for coaching. He was suffering from monophobia

He continued, “Even when my 10-year-old son is with me, I feel safe. But now, I have to travel for work and stay in hotels. I’m terrified of closing the door of the room I stay in and afraid that if I leave it open, I may be robbed!”

This was a clear case of 'monophobia" i.e fear of being alone.

To uncover the root of his fear, I guided him into a deep trance.

In this state, he recalled a vivid experience and said, “I’m sitting on my father’s lap in the courtyard of my home. My elder siblings are there too, and my father is telling us stories of genies and witches.”

This memory was the initial sensitizing event (ISE) the seed of his fear.

Alhamdulillah, with the right intervention, he overcame his fear that very day. I even tested his progress by leaving him alone in my office, and he felt calm and relaxed.

What he mentioned demonstrates the power of language and communication. Words are not just words; they program listener’s mind. Untrained individuals, like his father, even with good intentions, may unknowingly create lifelong challenges for themselves or others through poorly chosen words.

Neuro Linguistic Programming This is where Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) shines. The “Linguistic” in NLP focuses on the art and science of communicating - both verbally and nonverbally.

What you say, how you say it, to whom and the context in which you say it all matter.

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Kamran Sultan

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About the author

Master Trainer of NLP & Hypnosis | Personal Breakthrough Expert | Strategic Intervention Coach | Certified Firewalk Instructor | Ex-Country Supervisor Silva UltraMind Training Kamran Sultan

Since 1997, Kamran Sultan has been training and coaching people from all walks of life. He is a Licensed Master Trainer of NLP™ with the Society of NLP™ (USA), a Strategic Intervention Coach, a Certified Instructor of Hypnosis, and a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist. Kamran is also a Certified Humanistic NLP Coach, a Certified Fire-walk Instructor (yes, he can make you walk on fire), and formerly served as the Country Supervisor for José Silva’s UltraMind Training in Pakistan. With over 37,000 hours of experience teaching NLP and Hypnosis, Kamran’s work is known for being deep, powerful, and transformative. He doesn’t just teach from a manual - he teaches from decades of lived experience. His training sessions are highly engaging, insightful, and full of energy and fun. Kamran dedicates over 300 hours every year to his own learning and development. He has trained extensively in the UK and USA with many of the world’s most respected experts, including Dr. Richard Bandler (creator of NLP™), Anthony Robbins, John LaValle, Joseph Riggio, Kenrick Cleveland, Jamie Smart, Rich Litvin (co-author of The Prosperous Coach), Paul McKenna, Michael Breen, Nick Kemp and many others. In addition to his business studies from the Institute of Business Administration (IBA), Kamran has more than a decade of experience in direct (door-to-door) sales and marketing. As a performance enhancement coach, he has been working individually with clients each year since 1997, helping them create meaningful and lasting change. Originally from Karachi, Pakistan, Kamran now lives in New Jersey, USA, and provides coaching sessions to clients around the world through online platforms.