Monophobia: The Fear of being alone
How a father did NLP with his children in the wrong way!
“I’m afraid of staying alone, even in my own home,” said a man in his 30s who approached me for coaching. He was suffering from monophobia
He continued, “Even when my 10-year-old son is with me, I feel safe. But now, I have to travel for work and stay in hotels. I’m terrified of closing the door of the room I stay in and afraid that if I leave it open, I may be robbed!”
This was a clear case of 'monophobia" i.e fear of being alone.
To uncover the root of his fear, I guided him into a deep trance.
In this state, he recalled a vivid experience and said, “I’m sitting on my father’s lap in the courtyard of my home. My elder siblings are there too, and my father is telling us stories of genies and witches.”
This memory was the initial sensitizing event (ISE) the seed of his fear.
Alhamdulillah, with the right intervention, he overcame his fear that very day. I even tested his progress by leaving him alone in my office, and he felt calm and relaxed.
What he mentioned demonstrates the power of language and communication. Words are not just words; they program listener’s mind. Untrained individuals, like his father, even with good intentions, may unknowingly create lifelong challenges for themselves or others through poorly chosen words.
This is where Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) shines. The “Linguistic” in NLP focuses on the art and science of communicating - both verbally and nonverbally.
What you say, how you say it, to whom and the context in which you say it all matter.
If you want to master the most effective methods of communication and learn to program your mind (and others’) for success, with NLP check these self-paced courses.
Kamran Sultan
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- How to forget painful memories
- How I coached a businessman make better decision
- Dealing with procrastination using NLP timelines
- Relationship Coaching: Mending relationships with NLP
- Monophobia: The fear of being alone
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- The Key to Lasting Change: Lessons from a Smoking Cessation Session
- Overthinking: How a Client Went from Tired to Relieve with NLP
- The Secret to Emotional Healing: The case of a broken heart girl
- Seeing Through: A Guide to Deeper Human Connection
- The Client Who Reincarnated Three Times: The Key to Effective Coaching
About the author
Master Trainer of NLP & Hypnosis | Personal Breakthrough Expert | Strategic Intervention Coach | Certified Firewalk Instructor | Ex-Country Supervisor Silva UltraMind Training Kamran Sultan
For more than 27 years, Kamran Sultan has been helping people transform how they think, feel, communicate, and lead. With over 37,000 hours of live training experience and more than 3,000 clients coached across the USA, Middle East, Europe, and Asia, he brings a rare depth of mastery in human behavior, communication, and personal transformation.
Kamran has conducted 130+ Licensed NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner trainings, developed dozens of complete learning programs, and built end-to-end learning ecosystems—including certification pathways, coaching clinics, membership platforms, and experiential breakthrough events. His work consistently helps individuals overcome anxiety, build unshakable confidence, strengthen communication, and develop leadership presence that elevates both personal and professional performance.
Endorsed by Dr. Richard Bandler, co-creator of NLP, Kamran is widely regarded as the leading voice of NLP and Hypnosis training in Pakistan and a trusted transformation specialist internationally. His methods blend science, psychology, and practical coaching to create fast, reliable, and lasting change.
Whether you come to develop emotional strength, enhance their influence, grow as leaders, or create meaningful change in their lives, Kamran offers tools, training, and guidance backed by decades of results and real-world experience.