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This person had serious attachment issues and was suffering from significant relationship stress.

By the way, this client was a Muslim!

As Muslims, we don’t believe in reincarnation. In fact, most Hindus today don’t believe in it either.

Upon hearing their story, my first instinct was to correct them for believing in reincarnation.

BUT as I remind my students again and again: “YOUR COACHING ISN’T ABOUT YOU.”

It doesn’t matter what you believe, value, or consider the truth. When you are working with people, you must PAY ATTENTION TO THEM!

Your coaching is for your clients.

It’s crucial for a helper to understand where the client is coming from.

You don’t have to believe them, but you must recognize that, in their minds, whatever they are saying is their truth.

For clients like this, they often feel their issues are connected to their “previous lives.”

In NLP, we have simple, effective ways to help such individuals. I guided this client through some of those processes and helped them heal their emotional wounds.

In my experience, it usually takes multiple sessions with such clients, as their issues often have layers upon layers.

But here’s the key lesson: NEVER JUDGE A CLIENT simply because they believe something you don’t.

If you feel the need to invite them to Deen, do so only after you’ve helped them. Just as Prophet Yousuf (عليه السلام) invited his inmate prisoners to Allah after helping them interpret their dreams.

How do you know if you are judging someone?

As a coach / a therapist / a people's helper, it’s vital to know when you might be judging a person. Judgment can take many forms, but here are three key areas to watch out for.

Notice Your Feelings:
If your first instinct is to challenge or correct a client’s perspective, it’s a sign you’re prioritizing your beliefs over their experience.

Notice Your Thoughts:
Pay attention to your thoughts. In case you find yourself thinking something like, “That’s ridiculous,” or “How can they believe something so irrational?” or “They’re just making excuses,” or “This is just attention-seeking behavior,” you’re likely judging their perspective instead of exploring it with curiosity.

Notice Your Behavior:
Be aware of how you respond—do you interrupt, dismiss, or show disinterest? Actions like these reveal underlying judgment, even if it’s unintentional.

Remember, When you work with people, your job is to understand them and help them to the best of your ability. That’s why they came to you, and that’s what you’re being trusted—and paid—to do.

Kamran Sultan

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